Day 28 and removing people

Goals

1. Closer relationship with God- today was Corinthians chapter 5 . yesterday I talked about not judging and today this chapter talks about judging and removing people. I will delve into this deeper below. I continue to write in my prayer journal.
2. Get Fit- a rest day was nice but now time to get back at it. Today is upper body day. Last week I did 3 lower body days and 2 upper, I’m switching that this week and it will be 3 upper and 2 lower.
3. House organization- 15 minutes today of going through my sock drawer and getting rid of mismatched socks.
4. Write- I wrote for 20 minutes today
5. camper reno- more reading in the wiring book

Judging people and removing them

Paul talks about a member of the church that was involved in sexual immorality. The church knew and the member was aware of what he was doing. The church was advised to remove the member from the church so it would make the member aware of what he was doing wrong. I am sure that there was much more to this than I conveyed. I am not a Bible expert at all. I only read it , look it up and see if the meaning I am given makes sense to me. Reading the word of God is a way for me to be closer with God. What this passage reminds me of is the psychological premise that you take on the characteristics of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Think about the people that you spend most of your time with, do they support your goals? When is it ok to remove people from your life? I do not pretend to know all the answers to this. For me it happens when the person repeatedly ignores my boundaries. Mind you the boundaries I make clear. I guess you have to decided what is best for you. Sometimes it is family and people are really reticent to remove family but I think if the person is toxic and causes you repeated issues then you have to consider it. I believe the term “misery loves company”. Drug users hang around other uses just as alcoholics spend their time with other alcoholics. We want to be around people that make us feel better about ourselves. Sometimes this is a good thing and sometimes this is a bad thing. If you have goal to say lose weight and someone you know sabotages you repeatedly you have to consider distancing yourself. I know this can be totally confusing sometimes as to where the line is about judging. For me it is cutting someone out for a characteristic they have that doesn’t impact you. To me that is judgmental. but you will have to decide for yourself. I think that you have to have people close to you that support your goals and are willing to tell you when you may be messing up, in a supportive way of course. If a goal is to stop drinking but you have that friend that encourages you to drink, you have to look at what that person brings to your life. Do you have to totally cut them out, no but maybe just distance your self more? Consider those people that challenge your to improve in whatever you are doing. These are the people you want to spend more time with. I really appreciate the people that will speak truth to me , those are your true people. I am not telling your to to boot everyone , I just think it is a good idea to take an inventory of who you are spending your time with. Thoughts?