Goals Day 7
- closer relationship with God- continuing in Romans and chapter 6
- Get fit- Wednesday is a rest day with the weights and man am I sore. Today I stretched and did 15 minutes of cardio. I hate cardio, I would rather lift everyday.
- house organization- I continued work on the laundry room, spent 15 minutes and got rid of another box of clothes.
- Write Book- today I did not work on the writers’ notebook or anything else, I just wrote for 15 minutes and really could have kept going but I do have to work today
- Camper Reno- reading a book on RV wiring
I have continued to explore self mastery as I feel it is key to accomplish goals. Everything I looked up had different days for when a new habit is formed but most agreed it was more than 60 days for it to become an automatic habit.
It can take anywhere from 18 to 254 days for a person to form a new habit and an average of 66 days for a new behavior to become automatic
So today I will practice a step in improving self mastery. Step 1 is self talk. I know that we all have self talk and most of us are not kind to our self. Possibly, we are not even aware of how many negative thoughts enter our mind in a day. I found the information below on a website
1. Talk To Yourself
There’s a voice inside your head, and that’s completely normal. It’s your internal dialogue, the inner commentary that strives to make sense of the world. The first crucial step in developing self-mastery is to become an observer of your thoughts—to become self-aware, self-reflective. To think about your thinking.
Throughout history, psychologists and philosophers have presented theories on the multiplicity of the human mind. Plato divided the psyche into appetitive, logical, and high spirited. Freud categorized into the Id, Ego, and Superego. Modern theories continue to be presented and debated.
But they all agree on the multi-dimensional aspect—as strange as it sounds, there seems to be more than one “you” inside of you. And often, we’re at odd with ourselves. Self-mastery is about creating inner congruence—an agreement and peace between an external stimulus, our internal interpretation, and our emotional response.
A lack of mindfulness will respond to external stimulus immediately with an emotional response. Self-mastery causes a pattern break and allows for an internal interpretation to take place. Stop, fully observe the emotions welling up inside you and the thoughts that present themselves.
Self-mastery requires this observation and recognition. Label the emotions and thoughts as they present themselves.“
“Becoming the best version of yourself will equip you to spark change in others.” -Thai Nguyen
Below I included a link for a really nice slide show with visuals that shows why self talk and managing it is so crucial to attaining goals and it also reduces anxiety. It has nice references and studies included for those that like scientific background.
I was told by a co worker that putting my goals out there is “too accountable”. I don’t know if that is a thing? I have a ton more goals but started with 5 so I did not get overwhelmed. I think even if you only have 1 that is ok too. Actually, you are probably ensuring success by only focusing on 1 goal. I just know that I was feeling stagnant and was not ok with just staying the same. I feel that this Covid epidemic has allowed us all to be ok just existing, and this is not ok. Sure it is fine to have a day here and there where you take a mental holiday, we all need that but not everyday. I am hoping that you are also working on setting goals.
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